Only 10 weeks to go!

Hello,

I have not been writing for a while as I remember that having lots of details about pregnancy is never a good thing on a blog addressing couples with infertility.

I just want to let you know that the pregnancy is going very well, almost 8 months now. I am still in contact with the Duofertility team who has been giving me a few tips and advice for the pregnancy, simple things like how to cope with sore nipples when pregnant, or how to look after my skin with the ever expanding size of my belly, what position I can try to improve my sleep…anyway things that I should be discussing with the midwife, but she never has time to discuss it.

With the exception, of those little niggling things, the pregnancy is a blessing, and I am really enjoying it.

I have managed to keep the suspense about the gender of my baby, so I will have the surprise when it decides to turn up, sometimes mid-April if everything goes to plan.

I will write to you all when he/she arrives (or a few days after probably).

Quite a few of you have made comments on my blog over the last few months, and I really hope that you are all doing well and that you have managed to get pregnant, low ovarian reserve is not the end of the world if you tackle it appropriately! Keep positive!

my baby

I am pregnant!!!

The day before my period were due – I had cramps – as I always have around then…with a bit of spotting, but I decided to do a pregnancy test and it was POSITIVE!!!

Given that I had spotting and cramps, I didn’t want to shout for victory immediately and I wanted to be really sure before sharing it with you.

So it is now official, I am 5-1 weeks pregnant (10 days after finding out that I had a positive pregnancy test). The ovulation date was on the 21st of July. We made love 3 times during our fertile days from the duofertility monitor and it worked!

So after being told that my situation was so desperate by a fertility specialist, I feel so happy that we decided to go for a natural option first to improve our chances, and in 6 months I got pregnant!

This is obviously very early days, and I am very careful about telling the world (the blog is a nice place to start given the anonymity!) as I know that I have a high risk of having a miscarriage (25% of pregnancies end up in a miscarriage before week 12).

I have my “booking appointment” with the nurse at the GP surgery later this week and I will keep you posted on how things go. However I will not be talking non-stop about my pregnancy as I remember how painful this was to me when I read other blogs.

This blog was really about trying to find out which were the best solutions for women like me out there and I feel so happy that we got there so quickly!

I am still following a few of the latest things that are supposed to help women get pregnant… and I will post about this – however I will hopefully not be able to test them out!.

I put my pregnancy down to duofertility’s help – 100%

Plan of action for June 2013

Right, I am not pregnant… but I have come up with a plan – I am becoming too obsesed by all this monitoring…

This month I went back to ovulation tests + cbfm +duofertility+fertility friend.

Cbfm – clearblue fertility monitor
From day 7 I have had a high fertility level….and this made me worried that something may be wrong with me.
I have said this before – but next month I will not use it! And to be sure, I have asked my husband to sell it on Ebay! So there is no temptation.

Duofertility monitor
It gave me my fertile days, which we used religiously to the letter – not travels, no parties…just baby making …. and it confirmed that I had ovulated. I didn’t do a progesterone test this month as I felt reassured by the last 2 that the monitor works well for me.
The team also contacted me to recommend speaking to my doctor about progesterone again, as I had not taken it for a couple of month. I have been quite stressed with everything this month, so this may have affected my progesterone level…and ability to get pregnant.
The advisor also suggested to stop using the clearblue monitor as it is not helping – of course they would say that – it’s the competitor product!

The ovulation tests
I saw a light band on the test from day 9 until day 14…and then it disappears. So I cannot understand why the clear blue fertility monitor tells me that I am on “high fertility” as it’s using the same method of detection???? Maybe some monitors have different level of detection?? I would have imagined that they were standard.

Fertility friend

I have used fertility friends this month to see what this was all about as I have seen a few people comment on it.
The reality is that it is not so good for me as there is nobody knowledgeable there. Some women on there are claiming to analyse other women’s data, this is probably coming from a good intention, but this is not medical advice and what I read on it worries me more than necessary!
I am keen to use it for plotting my data to see if I learn any more information from it than I do from duo and I will keep you posted. However to reduce my obsession I have asked my husband to do the hard work ( put the data in) and this will hopefully get him a bit more involved 😉
I have also seen 2 new apps called Glow and Ovuline in the media, so I will put that on his phone so we can test it too. I will keep you posted about his impressions and finding.
But for me, this month, I will concentrate on Duo and relaxing as using all those things is probably getting me a bit obsessed about it! And really I get all I need from Duo.

Can fertility monitors really give me control?

I am in a better mood today, I guess that I was half hoping that the ovarian test meant nothing and that I would be able to show the world that I could be in control of that too.

I love controlling everything in my life, from my job, to my house, to what my garden looks like…and I feel that getting pregnant is the exception… It want it to happen fast and it is not.

I realise that I am being unrealistic, but I would like to be pregnant by now. Everyone around me seems to get pregnant.

However if I put my rational hat on I realise that actually we know many people that are struggling to have a child, or have been. I guess I see what I want to see.

I am so determined to show doctors that I don’t need them, I want to get pregnant with my husband, and not with a doctor’s help!

I wonder if the monitors are really helping me control this?
I feel that the clearblue and ovacue are giving me more worry and questions than empowerment. I feel confused by the results and they make me wonder if I am normal.
DuoFertility and the ovulation tests are giving more accurate information. But I only like the ovulation tests as my doctor explained that it wasn’t a problem not to see a clear positive result. The duofertility makes me feel more in control, but to be honest, it is more the team than the monitor. They are giving more lots of information and make me feel empowered to tackle this challenge!

Technology alone is not the solution for me.